How to Enjoy Being Single Introduction A lot of people dread being single because they fail to realize how great it truly is. About being single. Only in singleness can you experience the highest level of peace. The single biggest drawback of marriage is worry. Only single people can experience the highest level of peace. You only have to worry about your actions. You don't have to worry about getting divorced and your entire life changing. You don't have to worry about getting yelled at for leaving dishes in the sink. You don't have to worry about disagreeing about where to go on vacation. You don't have to make sure you always look put together so the other person doesn't think you are gross. You don't have to worry about getting cheated on. Your nervous system will feel safer with just you because you can really only trust yourself. You know you won't cheat on yourself. You know you won't yell at yourself. You know you won't maliciously insult yourself for a mistake. You can finally be at peace with limited worry. You aren't seeking romance, you are seeking importance and intimate companionship. Importance. Most people find a deep satisfaction and fulfillment in seeing their efforts improve somebody else's life in some way. This ties into wanting to feel valued. You do not need a marriage to feel this way. Intimate companionship. Most people have an innate desire for a deep, intimate connection with another person or group. You can already have this with God alone. If you don't believe in God, you can find this intimate companionship in friendships and community. If you put the same effort into friendships and community as you do a marriage, you might reap similar benefits of a marriage. You don't have to have a marriage or romantic relationship for intimate companionship. The grass isn't always greener. Single people want relationships. People in relationships yearn to be single again or wish they never married. This is where the phrase happiness is where you are now or nowhere at all comes from. You can be happy now. If you aren't, being in a relationship will not make you happy. In fact, being in a relationship could make you even more depressed than you already are when your partner's issues come to the surface. People see their romantic partner as a 'savior' to save them from themselves (Spoiler alert, Jesus Christ is who you want, but not everybody is religious). You place the other person on a pedestal because they 'fulfill' you, then you find out they are incredibly flawed and that vision of how they were supposed to 'save' you is shattered. People do this over and over and over because they fail to realize that everybody is imperfect and every relationship will be too. About Marriage Most married people would tell you 'don't do it.' Being married is not easy, and it isn't even worth it for most people. Many people fail to realize the high degree of moral character that marriage requires. Most divorces result due to the lack of strong moral character. The New Testament of the Bible outlines the moral character required to stay married. If most married people knew their spouse wouldn't find out, they'd tell you not to get married. Some would tell you that even if they knew their spouse would find out. Some wait for divorce to admit it. Even religious people would tell you. The point of marriage. Due to the lack of relationship with Christ, most people think marriage is to make them happy. This is false. The point of marriage is to become more like Jesus Christ, which is a hard, emotionally painful and draining process, which is why most people flunk out. The benefit is life companionship and, ideally, building an unshakable bond with the other person. Unfortunately, most people are not equipped for this or fail to realize this is the case and end up divorcing when the hard times come. Marriage is constant worry and little peace. Most married people would tell you they were happier single. This is why most people return to it. The ideal of marriage is worth it, the reality isn't. Being single is better than the reality of marriage for most people. Being married is constantly worrying about if the other person will cheat tomorrow or in 10 years, constantly worrying if they will still be the same in 10 years or a completely different person you are incompatible with, constantly worrying if they will die in a car or plane crash because you love them so much, and more. Marriage is emotional chaos nonstop. True peace can only happen when you are single. Married people will always have tons of worries that they have to push to the back of their mind to function. If that isn't something you want, I would stay single and learn to enjoy it. 99% of marriages are not great. Everybody chases the ideal, not the reality. Every woman wants her marriage to be her favorite romance novel. Every man wants his marriage to be his favorite p*rno everyday. These are ideals not reality. Reality is NEVER as good as the ideals you have in your head. This is why so many people end up divorced or breaking up. They were chasing the ideal, not the reality. They were chasing the fantasy of who the other person was, not who the other person was in their entirety. We often fill in the missing details about other people with ideals, not who they truly are. Then once we find out our ideals about them weren't true, the relationship is only held together by the vows, which a lot of people forsake.